Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh :)
Weekend, nice. I had a day off already today, so Im happy Ive done now all housework, and I have tonight and two days only for nothing and everything, in sha Allah. I was planning to go to see my bestie in another town but then cancelled, and she actually had the same vibes, that it would have been so nice to see but need to have time to do some own things.
Ive also read a bit blogs these few days. I see a theme, which started to rise with #metoo -campaign, as on its side. As I see it, many women write about positive body image, and want to gain more freedom in self-expression. About how to make and find your own choices in life, beeing comfortable with yourself, acceptance.. I remeber reading about the news Finland beeing the happiest country of the world, but also same time, finnish women are unhappy and lonely.
I tried to google the news, didnt know how to look for it and just wrote the words "finland women unhappy". And stopped there. The links I found instead of one I was looking for, were about like this:
"Women are unhappy nowadays"
"Finnish are not that unhappy that they think they are"
"Why Finnish men are unhappy"
"Why Finnish marriages are so unhappy"
"12 simple reasons for your unhappiness"
I clicked a few and read them, and came unhappy :)
Its true, that Finland is a safe country and kinda easy to manage, if u are in the system, either born here or have already needed documents. But our current government is a joke, although not a funny one, they are making a lot of damage for people with their renewings, and that is a clear problem. I am not capable to talk that much about politics, as I am not that aware of all aspects, I just see things are and have been going completely in the wrong direction. But, still here is more chances than in many other countries, so why then the unhappiness?
I dont know the answers.. Ive met many and many people, who are the sweetest and kindest. Who have a good heart and wish happiness and love for everyone. And same time, they are outcasts, problem cases, people who are claimed theres something wrong with them? Our social norms are very tight and I dont know who keeps them up.. becose it seems that when outdoors are closed, we all think much the same way. Everybody knows that sometimes theres things to deal with. And sometimes can happen things which are so unfair and wrong. Sometimes we r ashamed, when the shame is really on someone else. Unexpected bills, mistakes which could have been avoided but they happened. Uncapability. Shouting to someone, when u need a hug. A friend. A listening ear, who dont do it for money, giving u a prescription, diagnose and a lower self-esteem what u originally came with. A wish to accept and be accepted. To be of full potential.
One answer I do know, and that I wish to share.
1. Have We not opened your breast for you (O Muhammad, sallallahu aleyhi wa sallam)?
2. And removed from you your burden
3. Which weighed down your back ?
4. And have We not raised high your fame?
5. Verily, along with every hardship is relief,
6. Verily, along with every hardship is relief (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs).
7. So when you have finished (your occupation), devote yourself to Allah's worship.
8. And to your Lord (Alone) turn (all your) intentions and hopes.
Ash-Sharh (The Opening Forth, 94, english translation)
One struggle for me has been mental illness, and I was more and less sick for ten years. And after these ten years, what has ever helped me the most, were the words, "u dont need their medication, u need my dedication". Thank u, all of u who have been with me, and been understanding, near and far.
And dont worry, this is to be continued.. in sha Allah :)